Another reason men are avoiding women…

Don’t get mad, get E-venge!

Daily Mail.

Natalie Lue would be the first to agree that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

When she discovered that her fiancé Tom had been sleeping with other women behind her back – one of her friends caught him on a date with someone else – the rage she felt wouldn’t go away.

“I felt a terrible anger, which began eating away at me, bubbling away in my mind,” is how she describes it.

In the past, Natalie might have taken revenge by cutting up her faithless fiancé’s clothes, or perhaps even trashing his beloved car.

Yes, it is perfectly fine for a woman to destroy a man’s property if her feelings get hurt. So what if the car costs thirty grand? It will make her feel better, therefore it must be correct.

Thanks to the internet, though, a far more lethal form of vengeance is now at hand.

Natalie, like a growing number of other betrayed and deceived women, decided to take her revenge online.

Yeah, it gets better.

When 25-year-old Poppy Harris discovered her boyfriend was looking for other women on an internet dating website, her tears didn’t last for long.

A few clicks of the mouse here and a spot of typing there and the advertising executive from Walton-on-Thames had transformed the man in question from a good-looking, affluent sports coach searching for a pretty young woman to date into an unemployed layabout seeking an older woman in her 50s or 60s.

“It was the easiest thing in the world to hack into the website and change all his details,” she says, laughing at the memory.

Isn’t that illegal? I would say also immature and spiteful, but we are talking about women here so it’s hardly news…

The devastating power of the internet as a tool of revenge was revealed in January by actress Jane Slavin who took ‘e-venge’ on her lover, world-famous composer Michael Nyman, after he spurned her with no explanation.

Maybe he was fed up with her attitude? Not that it matters. Remember, it’s all about how she feels.

Posing as a beautiful woman called ‘Lucia’, she began a flirtatious online relationship with Nyman, who began bombarding ‘Lucia’ with explicit e-mails.

The crowning moment of her revenge came when ‘Lucia’ agreed to meet Nyman in a café in North London. At the appointed time, it was Jane, of course, who walked in.

Amazing. He still scored The Piano, and she is still an ugly vindictive bitch who can’t take rejection. Probably because it conflicts with her self-image as a goddess.

To compound the humiliation of the man who wrote the haunting film score for The Piano, Slavin wrote an online diary drawing attention to Nyman’s physical failings.

Do you notice how when relationships break down, women always go to the papers or wherever, and talk about how ‘crap he was in bed.’

What were you with him for then? Money? Much more noble eh.

In the U.S., there are countless websites and blogs dedicated to wronged women and the men who have hurt them – and the UK is fast following. Boiling bunnies is a thing of the past: revenge, it seems, is a dish best served up on a web page.

For the women, online vengeance serves as both catharsis and punishment. It is also possibly the most public way of dragging down an ex-lover – the modern-day equivalent of putting him in the stocks and pelting him with rotten tomatoes.

Yes, women are oppressed.

“It felt great to release the pent-up frustration,” says Natalie Lue, who was engaged to Tom for five years, but discovered his infidelity only after ending their relationship.

“It also felt great knowing so many people were being entertained by his terrible behaviour.”

“People started sending me e-mails saying they related to my frustrations.

By people she means women. Other women who have been shocked out of the little princess world they’re living in (and probably some who actually were dating arseholes, but hey, we all know women like a ‘bad boy’ right).

“This spurred me on and I started detailing everything that had happened with my ex. I felt I was settling scores, and it made me laugh that I was exposing personal details about him to thousands of people.

I wonder if any of these women ever think about how they would feel about such information of theirs being made public? But guys aren’t so selfish and narcissistic. They just get on with it.

“I told it exactly how it was. How he’d treated me like I was beneath him; how he’d been seeing another woman before we broke up; how he wasn’t even nice the night he proposed.

This goes on and on, it really isn’t worth reading the rest. It’s the same M.O.; women upset, women does her best to hurt the man as much as possible, even if it means violating privacy rights, causing criminal damage, purjury, false rape, whatever makes her feel better.

Sound like the behaviour of a lady, or a nasty, selfish spoilt bitch who thinks the world should revolve around her?

No, it isn’t a mystery why men are increasingly using women for sport sex, it seems anything else is too much of a liability (actually, so is sport sex). Then again, a woman can get a man arrested for rape when he’s never even met her, so you never know…

Take a moment to read the comments, they’re pretty good.

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9 thoughts on “Another reason men are avoiding women…

  1. Been avoiding (American) women for a few years now. Life is much happier and carefree. I date Asian nationals now and it’s wonderful.

  2. Cheating implies scorn? So the cheater main motive was to scorn his current partner?

    “I think it depends on the area or demographic. In some societies, men have higher rates of STD’s.”

    Not in Britain. STD are more prevalent in women, and most likely the case for every other “developed” country that has gone through a kind of sexual revolution.

    These women should not be given an excuse or sympathy. When one is in a relationship, private details should remain private even after the relationship breaks up. Also the cheater main motive was not to “scorn” the partner, but just to go after their desires. Whether that is right or wrong is irrelevant. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

    Is it ok to expect private photographs or videos to be displayed on the internet after the relationship break-up? Is it ok to give excuse for this despicable and vile behaviour?

    As to DV comment – Erin Prizzey is all I have to say.

    “And looking at a man the wrong way might lead to violence.”

    But the law is on the right side if that is the case. Law falls hard on men, and tip toes around women.

    “I really don’t see the scorned women as any worse than the men who scorn them.”

    But you seem to give them excuses? No one here is going to defend a cheater. The cheater is scum, who lusted after their desires. But the person who exposes private life of the other to humiliate them is a thousand times worse.

  3. Women are more likely to harbour STD’s than men. Why? Because the majority of women sleep with a minority of men the majority of the time.–FMWatkins

    I think it depends on the area or demographic. In some societies, men have higher rates of STD’s.

    Tiredofitall is correct. The state system (and society) prevents men from ’slapping back’ or at least looks down on it. Women on the other hand are assumed to have been ‘done wrong’ somehow if they act aggressively or destructively, at all.–FMWatkins

    I believe that the system looks down on men who abuse women, but not on men who are simply trying to defend themselves. From my understanding of the issue, most women don’t press charges on their husbands or boyfriends who hit them (or even beat them). So it appears that women generally let men get away with it or simply leave the relationship.

    Is that okay? Of course it fucking isn’t. It’s all bullshit. The behaviour of these women shows their emotionally immaturity, their over-inflated sense of entitlement and their assumption of license to behave as they wish.–FMWatkins

    No, it’s not ok but it happens. I think the difference with my POV is that I really don’t see the scorned women as any worse than the men who scorn them.

  4. Putting someone at risk for an STD is horrific. I see no evidence in society that men are any less vengeful than women. – Lormarie

    Women are more likely to harbour STD’s than men. Why? Because the majority of women sleep with a minority of men the majority of the time.

    Tiredofitall is correct. The state system (and society) prevents men from ‘slapping back’ or at least looks down on it. Women on the other hand are assumed to have been ‘done wrong’ somehow if they act aggressively or destructively, at all.

    Remember, the dynamics of power and control are different between men and women. Men might have physical strength, but women are more likely to use implements to do serious injury, and more likely to attack (men are usually aware of their strength and therefore temper it). Women have the psychological advantage, at least toward men who aren’t aware of it. Emotional manipulation is woman’s forté. There is of course, no law to regulate that, and although it leaves no skin marks, I’m sure I don’t need to describe the extent of the damage that can cause.

    When it comes to revenge, who decides what is appropriate? Sleeping with another women warrants your house being burnt down? Hell no, then should he retaliate back, maybe run her over in the car she scratched up.

    What if the man was talking to another women and his girlfriend ‘presumed’ he was flirting? What if when they got home she threw a glass of water at him, saying she’s upset?

    Is that okay? Of course it fucking isn’t. It’s all bullshit. The behaviour of these women shows their emotionally immaturity, their over-inflated sense of entitlement and their assumption of license to behave as they wish.

    ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’.

    Only because the feminist state ties the hand of men.

    Just what fucking world do you live in where men are allowed to defend themselves for a physical attack without getting shit-hammered by the law? – Tiredofitall

    Tiredofitall. That isn’t even the whole story. Women can get men chucked in a jail cell for absolutely nothing, just claiming ‘abuse’ is good enough, and if you’re wondering what abuse means these days, look at this.

    The Definition of DV Part 2

  5. Quote LorMarie –
    I suspect that you may have been a bit more sympathetic if the roles were switched. Whether we like it or not, turn the other cheek isn’t the rule in the real world. If you scorn a woman, she just might “scorn” you back. If a woman slaps a man, she just might get slapped back. We don’t have to think it’s right. We just have to understand that there are many people who will not allow others to harm them and get away with it.
    End quote –

    Just what fucking world do you live in where men are allowed to defend themselves for a physical attack without getting shit-hammered by the law?

    Any time I’ve ever seen a man defend himself in any way, he’s the one getting dragged away in cuffs.

    Regardless of the fact that the woman hit him with her fists, or a weapon he’s the one who goes.

    I’d love to live on your planet where a man could defend himself without fear of prosecution…

  6. ChicagoMan,

    I suspect that you may have been a bit more sympathetic if the roles were switched. Whether we like it or not, turn the other cheek isn’t the rule in the real world. If you scorn a woman, she just might “scorn” you back. If a woman slaps a man, she just might get slapped back. We don’t have to think it’s right. We just have to understand that there are many people who will not allow others to harm them and get away with it.

    Yes, some people are revenge seekers, but you really have to do something horrific to a man to cause him to take revenge.–ChicagoMan

    Putting someone at risk for an STD is horrific. I see no evidence in society that men are any less vengeful than women.

    Women however have such massively inflated egos and sense of self-worth that looking at them teh wrong way can cause a harrassment lawsuit (revenge)–ChicagoMan

    And looking at a man the wrong way might lead to violence. We both just generalized way too much, but I think you get the point.

  7. No, you shouldn’t expect retaliation if you scorn someone in a relationship.

    This proves that upwards of 90% of all women are just spoiled little childern.

    It is things exactly like this that make many question whether many women should even be given the right to vote.

    We are all adults, the signs were all there, either for men or for women. Just because one person whether it be the man or the woman, is too stupid to figure it out, doesn’t give the other person the right to take revenge.

    How old are we?

    Yes, some people are revenge seekers, but you really have to do something horrific to a man to cause him to take revenge. Women however have such massively inflated egos and sense of self-worth that looking at them teh wrong way can cause a harrassment lawsuit (revenge).

  8. In fairness, if a person is going to scorn his/her partner, they should expect that there may be some type of retaliation. Not everyone simply accepts disrespect. If someone is no longer interested in a relationship, the best thing to do is be honest and break things off properly. When handled correctly, the rejected partner should just move on with his/her life. But I must be honest and say that a person who cheats behind someone’s back would get little sympathy from me if they were in turn the victim of humiliation (via their scorned partner). After all, cheating is now a health issue (STD’s) not just an emotional one. I also think this isn’t really about man vs. woman. Some people are just natural revenge seekers under any circumstances (speaking generally, not about anyone specific). I should also mention that I would certainly not be passive in such cases.

  9. Thank you for your comments about the article above. I actually agree with a number of them and would just like to state for the record that I didn’t start my blog to take revenge on an ex. I certainly haven’t got any revenge and I’ll remember to be very careful about speaking with journos in future!
    The Daily Mail have chosen to run with their own more exciting story.

    If you want the actual facts of what happened, it’s here: http://www.dollymix.tv/2008/05/how_the_daily_mail_misrepresen.html#more

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